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father's day is never fatherless

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For about the last 5 years I have always talked about my fatherless father's day and was sad that I had no living dad to call.  My dad died almost 5 years ago and I have missed him each year on father's day and always - and my mom on mother's day as well.  However, this year, I realized that there is no such thing as a fatherless father's day.  New fathers are always being born and then there are people in our lives who are more than willing to fill in that empty space that is left by those fathers who are no longer here.  Older people like my friend Les and his wife Olive, who have "adopted" me and have no children of their own - and my friend Sid who is exactly the same age as my dad would have been. While enjoying having my children home this weekend and most of us on father's day, I realized how lucky I was to have kids who get along with each other (even like each other) - and kids that seem to like spending time with their parents.   We had a great

...you looked better before my cataract surgery

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Yesterday Jack the dog and  I met my friend Sid, who is 86,  and his dog Curly for our usual Sunday morning run.  He gave me his usual Drakker Noir infused hug, looked at me and said, "You look good.....but you looked better before I had my cataract surgery".  Sid, Curly and Jack. I laughed about that because he had already told me  how he looked in the mirror and screamed when he saw what he really looked like.  He thought he had aged 10 years.  But still, I don't want to admit that I look like a 57 year old grandma even though that is what I am.  That is only my outside.  Inside I am brand spanking new - I saw my colonoscopy pictures a few years ago....pink and unblemished. We all view ourselves differently than other people do I think.  That is not always so bad.  You see what you want to see, and you hear what you want to hear - Dig?   I remembered once when I was at an aerobics class 20 some years ago when the in exercise was aerobics and wearing leotards a

I'm so done feeling bad about my neck or any other body part

No offense to Nora Ephron, the author of "I feel bad about my neck".  What she writes about is true...we women are obsessed with parts of us that refuse to stay 20 years old.  I mean just because our brain thinks we are still 20 doesn't mean the rest of our body will follow suit and look that way.   We spend a lot of time and money trying to fix things instead of just accepting them.  Or we make fun of them - something I am good about.  What if we just accepted ourselves for once? Up until a few days ago, I was still in the "feeling bad about this or that part" stage but I am giving it up.  Oh I have noticed my neck and it's dry wrinkly skin that I could spend a lot of money on different products to firm up - stuff like amniotic fluid infused Clinique products or stem cells or the latest Oil of Olay potion.   And what I am sad about, as I think about it, is how Oil of Olay has morphed into all kinds of fancy stuff that is expensive, comes in fancy applicat

a message from my mom

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Yesterday I got a facebook message from a woman who I babysat for when she was a little girl.  This is what it said: Donna, this may sound weird but your mom came to me in a dream last night. She was young and beautiful, her skin like porcelain. she told me to tell you something and then she started to sing a song. I cannot remember the exact words, and it was only like 4 lines but the message was this...you may think something looks impossible but don't give up you can accomplish it, it will happen with courage on your part....i am sorry if this is weird but I felt compelled to tell you, I think it is rather fun that your mom and I had a visit and you were the reason. Barbie.  My sweet mom and her porcelain skin.  This is a picture I had never seen before but my sister sent it to me. My mom has been dead for over two years and I got teary and goosebumps from reading this email.  I am not exactly sure what it means, at least not consciously.  I know it will beco